Sex Therapy

Kink/BDSM-Affirming

“Don’t torture yourself, Gomez. That’s my job.” - Morticia Addams

Are you having difficulty communicating your sexual desires with partners? Do you struggle with the excitement and euphoria kinky experiences bring, only to be immediately followed by fear and shame once the happy chemicals wear off? Maybe you are engaged in the community but struggle finding someone that understands the nuances of BDSM/kinky relationships and feeling misunderstood or judged by healthcare professionals. Do you find yourself less engaged or having difficulty staying in the moment?

I’m here to tell you:

You are not broken.

There is nothing wrong with what you find erotic or pleasurable.

You are not a deviant.

You are not going to Hell.

And most importantly: 

  You are not alone.

“Kink” is a broad term that encompasses anything that is outside of what we consider conventional sexual, sensual, and intimate practices. Basically, this means anything that bends away from the “straight and narrow”. Media portrayal has allowed the practices to become more mainstream (Think 50 Shades of Gray, The Secretary, 365 Days), but these are also rife with myths and consent violations, reinforcing the belief that there is something wrong with anyone that practices.

In sex positive and kink-affirming therapy, the goal is to provide safe, open, and non-judgmental space to not just explore your desires,

but to also embrace them.

Not necessarily into the kink, but wanting to heal from past trauma experiences? Or challenge the internalized shame that our society loves to push on us? Are you a sex worker that has experienced judgement in and out of the therapy room?

Bring it on! I am a firm believer in the power of confident sexuality and the erotic. Bringing us back into our bodies and reducing shame is the ultimate FU to the patriarchy!

Got a part of you that is feeling shame?

What about a Dominant part?

Or that submissive part that gets all giddy when fantasizing about being flogged or spanked?

I welcome all your parts!

Sex positive and kink-affirming therapy allows you to explore those parts of you with someone who understands the complexities within the kink world and the erotic as a whole.

Whether you are a newbie just dipping your toe in or an experienced kinkster in a TPE dynamic, kink and BDSM affirming therapy can provide support in multiple areas.

  • You have discovered the wide world of kink and you cannot wait to dive in but you are also completely overwhelmed and scared.

    Not to worry! Kink-affirming therapy can help you explore and identify your limits, needs, and values through a sex-positive and trauma informed lens.

    Clients new to the community can be educated on the importance of communication, consent, safe practices, self-advocacy, and more to help them feel confident in making informed decisions in playing with others.

  • Let’s be honest: Kink is considered taboo, but even talking about sex in general can still make people clutch their pearls.

    A kink-affirming therapist is able to provide a safe, nonjudgmental space for you to explore your kinky identity - whether you are just curious or engaged in the local community. Kink-affirming therapists can help you recognize your unique sexual interests, work through any internalized shame, empower you to embrace your particular fetishes and/or kinks, and how to navigate your identity expression with confidence.

  • Engaging in kink can range from occasional, bedroom-only experiences to 24/7 dynamics. Kinky relationships can be incredibly empowering, but you really need someone that just gets it.

    Kink-affirming therapy allows you to safely navigate and enhance your kinky relationships with a therapist that has a deep understanding of the various dynamics and intricacies of consent and communication within the world of kink and BDSM.

  • Is your partner not feeling the kink? Or are you struggling to find the healthy balance between your kinky life and your vanilla life?

    Kink-affirming therapy can help you navigate that conflict, exploring your personal needs and preferences and how to negotiate those with their partner. You can also learn how to integrate those parts of yourself, leading to a more fulfilling and authentic lifestyle.

  • The core of kinky relationships is mutual and enthusiastic consent and negotiation.

    Kink-affirming therapy can help you differentiate and recognize consensual kink practices and abuse and heal from previous nonconsensual experiences utilizing various trauma therapy tools such as EMDR. This will allow you to gain confidence in your ability to spot those red flags early on, allowing you to engage fully in your authentic, kinky self.

  • Explore and embrace your desires and sexuality without fear of shame or judgement

  • Foster deeper intimacy, trust, connection, and communication in your interpersonal dynamics

  • Address and heal past traumas from non-consensual experiences

  • Learn how to navigate complex power exchanges with confidence

  • Address challenges that arise during scenes and/or in dynamics

  • Reclaim your sexual power and agency and expression of your most authentic self

How can sex therapy help me?

Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.

Embrace your chaos.
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